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Does pubic hair affect the pap smear?
My skin bleeds when I have sex. Am I just sensitive or do I have an STI?
Can UTIs be passed during oral sex?
Can I get a disease from having anal sex?
I think the condom came off inside of me. What should I do?
Thinking about sex is interrupting my life. What can I do?
What is semen supposed to look like?
What can I do to overcome my shyness and start a relationship?
Can you get pregnant from anal sex?
What is the point of flavored condoms?
Are flavored condoms only for oral sex?
Is it safe for my boyfriend to ejaculate in my anus?
We want to have anal sex, but I'm worried. What can I do?
Is there still risk in oral sex if there is no ejaculation?

QUESTION: Does it make the smear test easier if there is not as much pubic hair around the vaginal area or does that not make a difference?

ANSWER: If the "smear test" you are referring to is the Pap smear test, the amount of pubic hair around the vagina does not affect the results of the test in any way. The Pap smear checks for changes in the cells of your cervix (the cervix is inside of a woman's body and it connects the uterus to the vagina).

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QUESTION: Whenever my boyfriend and I have sex, the skin between my vagina and anus gets so sensitive it feels like I'm being rubbed raw and occasionally will start to bleed. Also, my vagina becomes painful in the lower half and remains that way for a few days afterwards. I am away from him while I am at school so we do not have sex very often. Is this from needing to be stretched out or are these symptoms of an STD?

ANSWER: It is possible that your skin starts to bleed because it is sensitive, although it may also indicate some kind of infection. If you are concerned about the discomfort and bleeding you are having, it is recommended you see your clinician. S/he will be able to determine the cause of your discomfort and help you identify ways to stop it.

Remember, having unprotected sex can put you at a greater risk for contracting a sexually transmitted infection (STI). It is recommended that sexually active people get tested for sexually transmitted infections at least every six months. Using a barrier method, such as a condom or dental dam, may reduce your risk of contracting or transmitting an STI.

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QUESTION: I got a UTI after having sex very frequently over a short period of time with my partner. I was wondering if they are ever passed from the female to the male during intercourse or cunnilingus.

ANSWER: A urinary tract infection (UTI) occurs when bacteria enter the urinary tract and reproduce. Women are especially susceptible; the female urethra (the tube that carries urine from the bladder to the `outside world') is much shorter than the male's, and the opening of the urethra is closer to the anus in a woman. Bacteria from both the anus and the vagina can enter the female urethra very easily. During sexual intercourse bacteria in the vaginal area is sometimes massaged into the urethra by the motion of the penis, which may make sexually active women more prone to UTIs. UTIs can be caused by other sexually transmitted infections, such as Chlamydia or trichomoniasis, therefore, it is important to see your clinician to determine the cause of infection.

There are several steps you can take to help prevent UTI, including the following:

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QUESTION: My girlfriend and I just had anal sex for the first time. We actually had regular sex in the vagina till I was almost ready to ejaculate, then since we didn’t have a condom. I ejaculated in her anus. Neither of us have any diseases. What are the chances of getting a disease? And is there anything else I should know about anal sex?

ANSWER: The chance of contracting sexually transmitted infections (STI's) is higher for anal sex for a few reasons: 1) the tightness of the anal opening which produces a higher chance of tearing of the anal lining, and 2) the anus does not produce any kind of natural lubrication to reduce the friction of the thrusting motion of the penis, and as a result, tearing and bleeding can occur.

If you and your partner have both tested negative for STI's in the past and are both monogamous (not seeing others sexually), there is less of a risk of contracting an STI from this encounter. It is important to use protection, like condoms consistently and correctly, to reduce your risk of contracting an infection and having an unplanned pregnancy; as you may know, a woman can become pregnant on pre-ejaculate fluid, which happens and cannot be controlled. Equally important are regular appointments with your clinician to screen for STIs.

If you decide to have anal sex, it is best to use a generous amount of water-based lubricant, to make anal sex more enjoyable for both you and your partner.

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QUESTION: About 4 days ago my boyfriend and I had sex, he had a condom on but, he slipped out, and when he entered again, I think the condom had come off inside of me and the movement thrust it deeper. I could not feel it in me, yet we have not found it anywhere else. What should I do?

ANSWER: If you have checked everywhere - sheets, internally, etc.- , you and/or your partner know that it came off in you and you are unable to retrieve the condom then the next step or recommendation would be to see a clinician to help rescue the condom if it is inside of you as it could create offensive odors as well as possible infections.

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QUESTION: I can't stop thinking of women and sex. As a result I am not able to focus on my school work and it keeps getting worse. How can I stop thinking of this stuff or lessen it greatly.

ANSWER: Most men and women think about sex multiple times a day, but if it is hindering your concentration and school work then you may want to talk to a professional about your issue. If you are a UIC student you can schedule an appointment with the Counseling Center at 996.3490; they are located in the Student Services Building.

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QUESTION: Me and my boyfriend have sex and his cum is an off white cream color. Is his sperm good ‘cause he was on drugs like 1 month ago but he's not on it any more? What is the right color?

ANSWER: The color of semen is usually whitish yellow and semi-translucent. The actual color does not seem to play a role in fertility.

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QUESTION: I'm a 30 year old male virgin and I'm very shy and have never had a girlfriend. Are there any resources (books, etc) that address this issue and might be able to help me learn how to overcome this shyness and maybe start a relationship?

ANSWER: There are books out there on shyness, but an option you have as a UIC student is to talk with a counselor at the Counseling Center. Their phone number is 312-996-3490.

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QUESTION: Can you get pregnant from anal sex?

ANSWER: Technically, you cannot get pregnant through anal sex (via the anus), but if semen makes it way to the vaginal opening then you could. Therefore, if you think about the position women are usually in when having anal sex... she's usually is on all fours... which means if semen drips out of the anus then, with gravity, it can make its way to the vaginal opening. Once it hits the vaginal opening the sperm can swim into the vagina and if the woman is about to ovulate then the egg could become fertilized and she could get pregnant.

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QUESTION: All that I wanted to know was what is the point of flavored condoms?

ANSWER: Flavored condoms are usually used for oral sex. If you have multiple partners or are at high-risk for contracting/transmitting sexually transmitted infections (STI's), it is recommended you use a condom or oral dam during oral sex as STI's can be transmitted this way.

Some individuals find the flavored condoms/oral dams to taste better than non-lubricated one's, therefore, they would rather use the flavored. Some use flavored water-based lubricant with non-lubricated condoms/oral dams to give it flavor, whereas others may like to use non-oil based food products.

It's all personal preference, but remember, when using latex condoms/oral dams and lubricant (if you choose), you'll want to use a water-based lubricant as oil-based lubricants can break down the condom/oral dam, which would defeat the condom/dam's purpose.

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QUESTION: Is it true that the flavored condoms you give at the Wellness Center should not be used for intercourse? I looked at the package and it said they were fine to use against pregnancy and STDs. Thanks

ANSWER: This is a very good question. The condoms can be used as a barrier for protection against STI's and pregnancy as the package states. The reason why our office states to use them for sex other than vaginal is due to the coating on the condoms. Most lubricants, if you look on the packages, have a sugar base to them like glycerin, glycose, etc. (We offer Slippery Stuff as a glycerin-free lubricant). These can feed yeast infections, which can be uncomfortable.

To get to the point, flavored condoms have a coating on them (which is what makes them so yummy). Some of the coatings may be glycerin-free; some may not. We have been contacting the company that makes the flavored condoms we offer in our office to see if they are glycerin-free, but we have not heard a response from them. Therefore to err on the conservative side, we are saying to not use them for vaginal sex.

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QUESTION: Is it safe for my boyfriend to ejaculate in my anus?

ANSWER: It is fairly safe to ejaculate in the anus if you are worried about pregnancy, but very risky if you are worried about sexually transmitted infections (STI's).

Pregnancy can only occur if some of the semen reaches to the vaginal opening, which is fairly unlikely unless ejaculation occurs just at the entrance of the anus.

If protection (male/female condom) is not used, there is a high risk of transmitting an STI (herpes, warts, HIV, hepatitis B, gonorrhea, Chlamydia, among many others) through anal sex. Some of these STI's are not curable

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QUESTION: My boyfriend and I want to have anal sex, but I am afraid it will hurt and he is really big. Also if he ejaculates inside of my anus without having a condom on can I get pregnant?

ANSWER: You are correct, there is a good chance anal sex may be uncomfortable. If you decide to have anal sex, it is best to use a good deal of lubricant (water-based if you are using latex condoms) as the anus does not produce any lubrication. You have the right to say no at any time you wish. Let me say that again. You have the right to say no at any time you wish. Whether it be prior to any type of sex or during, it does not matter. Do not let anyone pressure you into doing (or continuing) something you do not want.

As for pregnancy, if your partner ejaculates in the anus you will not be able to get pregnant. The only way pregnancy can really happen during anal sex is if the semen is discharged in or around the vulva/vaginal opening. But, the chance of contracting sexually transmitted infections is higher for anal sex for a few reasons including tightness and a higher chance of tearing of the anal lining. Therefore, it is important to use lubrication as well as protection, like condoms, to reduce your risk.

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QUESTION: Is there a danger in oral sex where no ejaculation is involved? Where is the risk of infection? Is enough if some saliva gets into the urethra? Is the man or the woman who is in danger?

ANSWER: There is still a risk in oral sex if there is no ejaculation as there can be transmission of infections through small cuts in the mouth, on the penis, or in the vagina. Usually the risk is on the person receiving oral sex since they are receiving fluids.

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